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Five frustrating things about toddlers! January 16, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — wheredidthatdaygo @ 8:29 pm

I thought I’d kick off my blog again in 2014 with one of my favourite types of entry – a list!!

I’m currently lying down semi-comatose in a darkened room after another funny/exhausting/wonderful/exasperating long day spent with my two year old so I thought I’d delight bore you all with a list of my five frustrating things about toddlers:

1. Obsessional behaviour

For some strange reason toddlers (well my particular toddler anyway!) can only seem able to like one thing at a time. This relates to what they play with, what they watch, read, eat, sing, etc, etc…. Which means that you are forced to endure watching the same mind numbingly boring episode of Thomas the tank engine over and over again until you are driven half mad and then all of a sudden a new obsession will take over. Anyone for the first 15 minutes of Annie on continual repeat?!?! No, thought not! You’ll also have to read the same book many, many times in a row to the point where not only do you know every word off by heart but the small person will also start to correct you if, heaven forbid, you accidentally get one of those words wrong! The most frustrating part of the obsessional behaviour is all those wonderful toys you lovingly and carefully picked out for them and spent days wrapping up for Christmas will just sit on the shelf for the forseeable future because for now if it doesn’t look like a train it is dead to her!!

2. Eating habits (or lack thereof!)

Urgh the dreaded toddler mealtimes and all the stresses that go with them!! They’re eating too much, they won’t eat at all, they won’t sit in a high chair, can’t use cuttlery properly, refuse foods they normally love, scoff food they’ve refused for two years, throw food on the floor, spill their drinks in their dinner, and so on and so on and so on………

3. All the many, so many, questions

I have to admit that a few weeks ago I was feeling quite smug as I thought I’d somehow managed to avoid the incessant why after why after why phase but unfortunately it has now kicked in with a vengeance! Before I had Roxanna I couldn’t even begin to imagine just how many questions I would be rerquired to answer in any given day. I’m beginning to feel like I’m on some sort of quiz show. Also, if my answer does not seem to be satisfactory, the questions will just continue until she has found an answer that suits her. I am starting to believe that toddlers are actually some sort of little geniuses who do in fact know all the answers to all the questions and are therefore silently grading us on our responses and will sometime in the future pull out a 20 page excel spreadsheet on all our incorrect ideas! This frightening thought was further compunded today when I gave what I thought was a fairly adequate response to one of the quiz questions only for Roxanna to turn to me with raised eyebrows and say “if you say so Mum”!!!!!

4. Their desperation to be grown up (big!) when it suits them

I think we must put way too much emphasis on the whole “wow, aren’t you a big girl” type comments as now Roxanna refuses to be acknowledged as anything other than big to the point where if you say something like “ah Roxy, you’re funny” she will turn to you in despair and say “no I’m not, I’m big”!!! And woe betide anyone who accidentally says something like “how’s my gorgeous little girl” as she will practically be in tears saying “I’m not little, I’m big!!” However, this I’m a big girl thing only works when they want it to. Case in point – I thought it might be time to attempt potty training (which will probably be a whole fascinating blog post all of it’s own!) so i built up the excitement of the whole big girl knickers thing until the realisation set in that I was actually taking the nappy away and full on tears and near to tantrum state ensued as she wanted her nappy back on. So, after she’d calmed down and I’d put the nappy back on (as clearly her willpower is stronger than mine!) I said I thought you were such a big girl now you were going to use the potty to which she replied “not yet Mummy, I’m not big enough yet”!!!!!

5. Selective comprehension

It’s funny how a seemingly intelligent and pretty articulate little person can sometimes seem to have lost all sense of comprehension if what you are saying doesn’t happen to suit them! E.g
Roxy: mummy can you come in the lounge
Me: No, I can’t right now honey, I’m making your dinner
Roxy: please can you come in the lounge
Me: that’s very polite but I still can’t as I’m still making your dinner
Roxy: please, please come in
Etc, etc, etc………

There is of course a footnote to this list of frustrations and that is one final frustration – that they just grow too quickly! As much as I like to moan about these things, I wouldn’t change it for all the world and this is actually a hilarious and wonderful stage of their development. Sorry to be soppy, but I wouldn’t want anyone thinking I ever take this little miraculous little (sorry BIG!!) person for granted!!


Saturday mornings aren’t what they used to be!! October 12, 2013

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So far this morning I have:

1. Watched about a hundred episodes of Peppa Pig.

2. Cleaned cat poo of the wall!

3. Played hide the teddy and pretended to be surprised when he magically appeared in exactly the same hiding spot every time!

5. Played golf (which mostly involved having to rescue the balls from under the sofa).

6. Played football. (More of the above)

7. Put all the trains to bed in their engine shed!

8. Watched some more Peppa pig.

And it’s not even 9am and I haven’t even had any breakfast yet!!! Lovely relaxing Saturday mornings!!!!!!


Roxy, Roxy, quite contrary! August 28, 2013

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So this week in Letchworth town centre they’ve got an ‘urban beach’! (Basically a giant sandpit with deck chairs round the side). Great idea, I thought, to while away some more of these never ending days before all Roxy’s groups and classes start back again after summer. So we arranged to meet up with some friends and spend the morning down at the beach!

After about 5 minutes (before any of our friends have even arrived) Roxy declares ‘Mummy, I have finished at the seaside’! Great! So I proceed to spend the next hour trying my best distraction techniques and ignoring the regular interruptions of ‘I have finished Mummy’. Eventually this turned in to the oh so familiar refrains of ‘I’m hungry’ and ‘I go home’

Admitting defeat, I give in and agree that we can go home for some lunch.

We arrive home and I say ‘right I’ll make some lunch then shall I?’

‘No mummy, I don’t want lunch’

‘What do you want then?’

‘Can I play in my sandpit?’


An hour later, we still haven’t had lunch and Roxy is still playing in her 1 metre square sandpit!!!


Attempted DIY August 16, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — wheredidthatdaygo @ 6:34 am

So I attempted to be vaguely useful yesterday and put up a hook on the back of Roxy’s door! There I was power drill in hand and Roxy looked at me, burst out laughing and said “what are you doing Mummy?!”

Just putting this hook on your door for you, I told her. She looked at me, gave me the most pitying smile and said “maybe Daddy can help you”!!!!

Needless to say, Roxy’s lack of faith in my DIY skills was spot on as I somehow managed to get the screw stuck half in and half out of the door, oh well!!!


Roxy on golf August 11, 2013

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We took Roxy to David’s golf club tonight and she came out with these two gems:

1. After playing on the putting green with David she comes back and says “You can play golf Mummy, you just have to get it in the little hole!!!”

2. Roxy: “I love golf”
Me: “do you?”
Roxy: “No, I love football!!!”

Not her Father’s daughter then!?!


How times have changed!! June 23, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — wheredidthatdaygo @ 7:14 pm

Yeah, yeah it’s been months since I last blogged I know, but I’m back with my favourite subject – family holidays!

So we are spending the night tonight at a hotel in Dover so we can get the ferry to France tomorrow morning and it has struck me just how much our life has changed in the last year!

So we arrive about 3.30pm and have a couple of hours to kill before Roxy’s tea time. Previously this could have easily been filled with a trip to the pub for a nice drink/chill out in front of tv in the hotel room/a nice walk along the sea front but these are not to be with a ridiculously energetic one year old who has about a 30 second attention span!!! We opted for a walk – an interesting choice because a) sorry to anyone who lives here but Dover is in fact a bit of a dive! And b) Roxy really does not want to be in her buggy anymore. She’s so desperate to get out and walk, which would be absolutely fine if this was a motor skill she was actually capable of but sadly not yet! So we attempt to allay her frustrations by passing her random items to look at/play with which keep her interest for about 30 seconds then proceed to be tossed out the buggy with an accompanying scream and a failed attempt to escape from her buggy straps!!

Lovely picturesque/relaxing walk over, is it back to the hotel for showers and getting dressed up to go somewhere nice for dinner!?!?? Er, no! It’s head to the restaurant in the hotel for a 5.30 quick meal only to discover the restaurant’s not even open yet! How depressing is that!?! So, bar meals it is then! Fish fingers mostly thrown on the bar floor it’s back to the room to put Roxy to bed! Now this is easier said than done as Roxy’s cot is about one metre away from where we are sat on the bed! Is she just going to lay down nicely and go to sleep? Yeah right!! After about half hour of Roxy hanging over the side of the cot squealing at us I decided there was nothing else for it but to send David down to the bar to watch the football and decamp myself to the bathroom!

So I write this post while sat on a pillow on the bathroom floor listening to Roxy chatting away to herself wondering where on earth my old life went!!



The sleep myths you want to believe! January 27, 2012

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I am aware I’ve been pretty useless at keeping up with my blog recently and this is mainly because I am completely and utterly sleep deprived and therefore struggle to string a sentence together let alone type any! But as sleep issues are my current obsession, I reckon I can manage a blog post about it before falling asleep!

So as a keen bean pregnant person I read the books, I went to the NCT classes, I watched the tv programmes, I quizzed my mum friends and felt I was pretty clued up as to what to expect in terms of sleep for my new baby – oh how wrong I was!! So here are the myths I wanted to believe or was brainwashed to believe and I now think are just not true! (apologies for any pregnant or new mums reading this but you’ll thank me in the long run for giving you an honest view!)

Myth number 1 – As a new parent, you’ll have a couple of months of sleepless nights then all will settle down!

Ha, if only! 9 months in and we are still battling with ridiculously disturbed nights and I know of many parents with kids much older than Roxy that still don’t sleep well! But new parents/parents to be take heart as there are definitely exceptions to this rule, like, for example my niece and nephew who have slept like angels day and night since they were tiny but I believe this is down to some awesome baby whispering magic powers of my sister in law or possibly some kind of voodoo magic!!!

Myth number 2 – you’ll sleep when they sleep!

Chance would be a fine thing! This is however, vaguely possible if a) your baby will sleep in the cot at home for more than 20 mins and b) you have no housework to do/other kids to look after/meals and bottles to prepare!! Or c) you are prepared to go to bed at 7pm and get a couple of hours of sleep in before the night wakings begin!!

Myth number 3 – Leaving your child to cry for a few minutes in their cot will psychologically scar them for life!

I must admit that I personally am useless at controlled crying because I have no willpower but I have many friends who have successfully mastered this technique and still have completely happy, healthy and well balanced kids!!

Myth number 4 – Newborn babies love to sleep in prams – the motion will send them to sleep easily!

When I spent about 5 months debating the various features and benefits of the prams/pushchairs/travel systems, little did I know that for the first couple of months Roxy was going to scream every single time we put her in it and refuse to go to sleep no matter how much we wandered about pushing it!!

Myth number 5 – Buy yourself a nice Moses basket for the baby to sleep in for the first 6 months.

Firstly, pretty much every baby I know grew to big or too active for their Moses basket long before 6 months and secondly plenty of babies, including Roxy, for some reason seem to hate their Moses basket and resolutely refuse to sleep in it!

Finally, myth number 6 – Swaddle your baby and lay them down on their back to sleep.

Ok so this is ideally how you want them to sleep but this presumes you do not have a fidgety baby! Let me tell you that a fidgety baby will break out of a swaddle no matter how tightly you do it and once capable of rolling will not want to sleep calmly on their backs thy will want to use the nighttime hours to tryout every sleeping position they can think of including sleeping in the corner of the cot face down with the head against the cot bars and their bum stuck up in the air!

So on that note, I’m off to attempt some sleep before the night shift – night all!!



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